This conversation is to be used when you have two or more young people who aren’t able to get on together. When either of them is being cruel, unfair and irritating. Use this video to make a start on having empathy for each other – both young people have issues – so let’s start the…
Here we list some of the great books that have helped us with our care practice. Dr Amber Elliott – Why Can’t my Child Behave? We were so impressed by this book that we used to give free copies to new staff in the children’s home – to help with their induction training and their…
When the young person that you care for has been through trauma at some point in their life, and you want an ‘in’ to start to talk about that. Sometimes you can use symbolism as that spark that you need to make a start. This video makes use of a sandwheel.. as a means to…
This video describes my findings on working with young people who have a severely ambivalent young person. There’s a fear to them that leads to manipulative, controlling and aggressive behaviours.
The Downward Inflection Voice This video explains how to use the downward inflection voice – to be used when telling your child something that they probably won’t like, but it is fact, and you aren’t going to change your mind – but you are conveying the message without it being threatening, aggressive or stirring up…
These are an important element to the lessening of behaviours that challenge. If you understand what these are, and work with your young person to exercise the use of these in them – then you will have a young person who is more aware of their own feelings and yours. Someone who is more ‘workable’…
This is our introduction to you – of who we are and a bit about our background in fostering and then in residential care. We then include our top tips for new carers… One of our later influences in how we worked was Dr Amber Elliott’s – Why Can’t My Child Behave – in fact…
A very important part of behavioural management of any young person – is you knowing the rules, and having an understanding of the game! If you are having to manage high emotions from a young person – then you need to know how those emotions work to be able to deal with them successfully. So…
As parents and carers we need to be therapists, key workers and educators for our young people. In the aspect of emotional intelligence – this is what I see the role of carer to be…